A grave affair ….

I visit this cemetery often in Szczecin, Poland. Its huge but still peaceful. My wife’s babcia is buried there and so is our niece next to her. This year we havent been able to visit their graves and still won’t be able to because of travel restrictions. But as we are forced to spend our Christmas alone, away from our family, they will be in our hearts.

Love those closest to you, regardless of the disagreements and remember those fondly who have now moved on to the world beyond. We are only dust, drifting in the vastness of something we are yet unable to fully understand. All the differences and disagreements we create are of our own making. All ideologies, monetary gains, tribal moralities, all of our own making and so it is rather silly for something we created ourselves to stand in our way of loving each and showing compassion where it is needed most.

This world was here long before we evolved and will be there long after we are no more if we continue down the path of self destruction. It is often said, never go to bed mad/angry at your partner, no matter how bad the fight had been, I think we need to extend that beyond our immediate partners in some way if we wish to live a healthier life in a mentally healthier environment. Lets lead our life with love, compassion and forgiveness, and leave hate where it belongs – in moments, quick to be forgotten.

Quell the rivers of hatred inside ….

Hatred is like a full flowing river, it is magnificent to behold at first but as it starts destroying everything in its path that admiration becomes less and less. The burst might be needed from time to time, but continuation of that aggression is not just corrosive to things around it but ultimately to itself.

Don’t fill your life with such hatred. Don’t lead your life with hatred fueled by bitter resentment. Don’t follow or believe in an ideology that basis itself around hatred, mistrust and anarchist chaos. Because that is what you are going to become otherwise. Someone who is filled with deep resentment and hatred for everyone, someone who doesn’t trust anyone, someone who doesn’t enter into dialogue with others in good faith, someone who assumes the worst in others. Do not project your failures on to the world.

Calm the raging rivers inside of you and realize that it takes all kinds to make this world. Don’t embrace your problems, don’t celebrate your problems, recognize and understand them – and take steps to fix them. Blaming others for your misfortune even though it might be their doing is not going to help you and it is not going to fix the problem. You are the one who is going to fix your problems. Positive thinking brings positive outcomes. Lead your life with love, and allow others and yourself enough space to learn, grow and evolve in their own time and in their own way.